
“A lot of stuff that Angel says to her is just mean. Boyfriend-mean sexual stuff, it’s all relationship stuff. The fight, epic again, but the pain, completely intimate. And of course Buffy’s response: more intimate still. This show is designed to be a feminist show. Not a polemic, but a very straight-on feminist show. And for her to be so abused by him, and for her response to him to be to kick him in what Spike would refer to as the goolies, it’s very primal. It’s very important. Its kind of empowering. And I kind of love it.” - Joss Whedon on Buffy 2x14
not empowering and it’s not feminist....the way Angel treats